We knew we had to say something, especially after what happened Thursday night. We had to let her know that worthwhile people care about her, not just that horrible piece of shit from her past.
We wrote a (stupid) message to her. We profusely edited a (still stupid) message to her. I talked to her friend about the situation on facebook and she told me to follow my gut. She’s actually a super chill person and I’m glad we kind of got her “approval” before sending the message. We still weren’t sure if we should send it. Finally I just hit the send button like pulling off a bandage. Here’s what we ended up writing to her:
Oh my gosh I’m so nervous, but here goes…
Mike and I had a really great time visiting you Wednesday and Thursday. You’re so much fun to hang out with and you’re also really cute. Originally we thought of you as just a friend, but now that we’ve gotten to know you we think we might interested in being more than friends. You seem like you have a lot of the same ideas about relationships and stuff that we do. We know you’ll be in Chicago for the rest of the summer. If you want to wait to start anything until you get back to Chambana, we understand. If you aren’t interested, just let us know and we’ll forget about it.
I know this message might come as kind of a surprise, so if you’re wondering about anything feel free to ask. We don’t wanna stress you out or make it weird to hang out with us. We just wanted to tell you how we are feeling since we just realized it ourselves.
<3 Katie and Mike
P.S. I hope this message isn’t too creepy… We spent kind of a lot of time trying to make it sound not stupid and I think we still failed.
Reading it over I feel so embarrassed! It sounds so stupid!!! FUUUUUUUUUUU!!!! Well, what’s done is done. She hasn’t responded yet, probably because she hasn’t been on facebook in a little while, so I’m really nervous to see what she says. Actually, that’s kind of a lie. I’m not nearly as nervous as I usually am about this kind of stuff, but I think that’s because I know no matter what we won’t lose her friendship (and her friend confirmed that). She’s just not that kind of person to abandon you for things like this. Mike, on the other hand, is really worried that she’ll say no, but it’s not because he thinks we’ll lose her friendship. It’s because he is absolutely smitten with her (as am I) and he just doesn’t want to imagine a reality where she says no. I understand that, but I’m worried he’s going to get hurt. You have to prepare yourself for the best AND the worst, not just what you want to happen.
Anyway, we’ll just have to wait and see what happens. It’s always the waiting part that kills me.
