My personality, my thoughts, my feelings, they are all slowly draining away from me. Perhaps they are more like sand slipping through my fingers as I try desperately not to let any more escape my fragile grip. Everything seems so muted and lackluster. The world is slowly losing its color and vibrancy and I'm frightened. It's been so long since I actually felt like myself and I'm wondering if perhaps the problem is that I'm not myself anymore, but instead have evolved into someone else while I wasn't paying attention. Nothing really holds my interest, not even keeping this blog up to date. Practicing the keytar, breakdancing, aikido, all these things were designed to bring be back into the beautiful world I remember, but they just end up being needless burdens that I can feel bad about not having enough time for later. Am I becoming a shadow of a real person, nothing more than an empty shell with all the physical functionality of a human being but none of the mental creativity that I used to possess?
Every day for three and a half years I've felt this way, with slight dips up and down, but never any real improvement. I think perhaps the only thing that really kept me from killing myself a long time ago was fear. I'm afraid of death, but at the same time I think about it a lot. I imagine how the people that know me would be effected and their pain would be so much greater than my own that I can't bring myself to end my own life. I don't talk about this with anyone ever other than mentions of it on my blog, probably because I feel so foolish. How could anyone understand this horrible, creeping feeling deep within my chest when my life is so seemingly perfect? I tell myself that. I repeat it over and over.
"You are loved. You are healthy. You have enough money to live. You are intelligent. You got into graduate school. You aren't horribly ugly. Your life is well planned. You are safe and warm and you should be happy. You should be happy. You should be happy. You should be happy. You should be happy."
But I'm not happy. I haven't been happy. If one could perhaps imagine my satisfaction with life as a large sphere, only a very small portion of the center would be filled up by the caring of others, with the rest of the sphere containing a blend of passive disappointment and loathing of myself. It's funny, when I was in middle school and everyone thought I was a fat weirdo...I was ironically a lot happier. I would say only the outer layer of the sphere was corroded by sadness at that point while the inside was made up of my enjoyment for life and egotistically love of my own personality. Slowly, as time passed and more things that SHOULD have made me happier came into my life, the positive part of the sphere grew smaller and smaller until now, when I'm basically dangling from a tiny thread above a giant pit of utter despair.
What has happened? Why do I feel this way? I mask it daily, smiling and laughing and spending time with others when really all I want to do is sit in a corner all alone and die. I don't think I've ever said this. Maybe I'm not as completely honest as I always boast to be, but things are painful to talk about. When your life is undercut by a constant hatred for yourself, why would you talk about it? Who would even want to talk about it with you? I always thought that one experienced identity crisis problems as a teenager, defining one's personality and sense of self, and by the time one got to college all that should be done with and one would be basically a version of their "final" self, if that makes any sense. Well, not me. I'm losing myself, little by little, and I don't know how to stop it. I'm so afraid that eventually there will be nothing left and I'll lose all sense of who I am and who I want to be.
I don't know what to do. I should be happy. I should be happy. I should be happy.
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