I'm in the mood to test limits at the moment. The little battery outline is only half full, and I have no idea how much longer it will last. I could easily forget that my computer isn't actually plugged in and lose this whole entry. Sometimes I wonder if that wouldn't be better, if I kept to myself. But I've become so accustomed to answering every knock on the door, letting everyone in. Perhaps one could compare it to going out in public without any underwear on. All someone has to do is unzip your pants and you're exposed, but people rarely unzip other people's pants. I don't know where I'm going with this. Maybe it's delirium brought on by the fever.
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We spent a lot of time with her this weekend. The closest I've ever been to allowing myself the occasional daydream about the future. I usually stifle my own selfish hopes and dreams as being completely irrelevant and impossible, but for some reason I can't seem to keep my pessimism going. At the same time I'm extremely frightened that it's all some kind of cruel joke by the universe, tempting me into a situation I've always desired only to steal it away from me a few moments later. And with universes who knows how long "moments" will be.
Are we interesting enough? When you get past the initial shock (and shock induced interest), we're just a couple of boring, childish adults. When I say childish adults, what I mean is that we still laugh at farts, but we've got are lives in order. In our free time we play video games and watch the television. We don't travel and not traveling doesn't concern us. We are content to simply exist in our crappy apartment furnished by a capitalistic infatuation with material possessions that can be used to wile away the hours between getting off work and going to sleep. Sure, I am into "interesting" things like martial arts and gymnastics and keytars and understanding the origins of existence and all that, but does that make me interesting as a person? Or are those things interesting and I'm just a boring person who happens to agree with the majority of people that they are interesting? By that definition, is everyone boring? I've always considered myself boring, but perhaps it's because I'm me all the time and I've grown used to myself. I just...I hope that she stays interested. She tells me I'm not boring...but I find that hard to believe. I'm predictable. It comes with the territory. I'm an asshole to people I don't like and a knight in shining armor to those I deem worthy. I don't leave things unsaid. In a mental sense, I'm never wearing underwear and all you have to do is get past the initial awkwardness of unzipping my pants to find out.
But that doesn't make for a very interesting person. I'm no smokey eyed hipster sitting in the back corner of a dark bar, brooding over a cup of black coffee. I'm more like the 14-year-old skateboarding down the sidewalk on the other side of the street from the bar, excitedly waving at my friends and proclaiming that I just grew my first pubes. I may have deep thoughts, but they are always immediately elevated to the surface where I expel them as mindless prattling. I may be funny for a while. My candid nature has a tendency to put most people at ease and make them smile and laugh in some instances, but it ends up painting me in the wrong light. "Big sister," I can read it in other people's eyes. "Big sister always says what she means and knows herself so well. I look up to her!" But that's not what I want. I don't need any more siblings. I need more friends, and in some instances, more lovers. Yet I rarely feel those kinds of deep connections, just because people aren't used to full disclosure except with select family members. I confuse people, rather than connecting with them and getting to know them. Maybe it's because my constant honestly is so alien to most people, because most people lie to you until you prove yourself to them. Maybe people feel like my friendship isn't worth anything because I give them my honestly when I first meet them. I don't know.
But enough self analysis. What I mean with all of this is I'm frightened. I'm frightened the initial enjoyment of my personality and gratitude for my "knight in shiny armor" demeanor will fade over time. For my husband, it didn't. He still appreciates it daily. But will she? Will little notes and comfortable hugs and gentle kisses be enough for her? After she knows all my stories and thoughts and feelings and there is nothing more to learn, will it be enough that I am a rational person with a strong sense of honor, as it was for my husband? I don't know. I'm so fearful. She's seen our day to day activities. She knows that all we do with most of our time is sit around and play video games. She spent an evening playing board games with us. And she's still interested, or at least I assume she is. The universe's moment seems to be longer than a few weeks in this instance, but when will it be over? When will I have to go through the torment I've prepared myself for with years of self doubt and reevaluation of my concept of what a relationship is? When will I have to say goodbye because what I want is impossible to obtain? Or will I be pleasantly surprised and awestruck by the outcome of this little expedition into hopefulness?
Wow, this entry got intense quickly. Sickness will do that I suppose. All I can say is that I wish I had gotten this fever from kissing her instead of simply being near her. Although, either way it would have been worth it.
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I attended a dinner party on Sunday, another in the series that I've mentioned before. This time the host was a lovely, slender young lady who I tentatively assumed might be an amazing cook based on previous experience with her life outlook. It's hard to explain, but she seems to favor the finer things in subtle ways, and as expected it certainly extended into the realm of cooking. The food was absolutely delicious and we spent the evening talking about our oral qualifiers and a myriad of other topics including whether or not me wearing clothing meant for males was a disservice to the entire human race. I was certainly surprised to hear everyone agree that my body was far to nice to be hidden by the clothing I was wearing. I didn't really think anyone noticed, but I suppose they do.
It really struck me later that my weight loss is rather apparent, especially since I'm becoming toned in addition to losing weight. Working out and eating more selectively is turning my body into a work of art, and I hadn't really thought about that fact impacting anyone but myself. I was losing weight so that I could enjoy my own reflection while naked in my own home, but I suppose that concept has far reaching effects in public as well. Even my husband, who isn't the most vocal about my looks has been telling me how beautiful I am and how thin my waist is when wrapped by his hands far more than he ever had before, even when we were first dating.
It makes me happy...but not in the same way I expected it to. I'll try to think of a better way to explain it later. My computer is dying now.
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